For Zdenek R.I.P #
1926 – December 2012
“Keep on never minding”
So, the Christian festive season has drawn to a close and how do you feel ?
New Year celebrations of the traditional sort can be quite heavy going and usually end up with the adults in one place and the kids in another, (usually where the playstation is located !)
Here’s a tradition that we adopted this year from a close family friend of ours (whose father, Zdenek recently passed away.) It works really well as everyone, young and old, can get together, in the same room, for this magical event. It also makes for a great family tradition, with the older family members taking the place of honour due to their experience and wisdom. Food and drink take second place to the magical atmosphere, energy, emotions and feelings created by those present.
First, get a few ‘comfy’ chairs together facing each other in the chosen room. Switch off the TV, radio, hi fi or any other distractions. Just go for it. We all decided to use the room where the christmas tree was set up and lit. For safety we used a metal planter to hold the burning papers and a low coffee table to set the lighted candles upon.
First here’s a few tips…
- It really is important to speak from the heart and with sincerity
- Helpful to direct your thanks to God, the Universe, Mother Earth or some other divinty
- Ask for the right thing ie not from the ego. Something for the good of all is a great start
- Take 3 deep breaths before reading (to connect to the higher self)
- Be aware of Karma, you will not want to create any revengeful or negative wishes…
- Wear something red, for energy.
Round 1 – What I’d like to let go off
Write down, on a piece of paper, what you would like to let go off from the past year (ie past relationships, situations, traumas, attachments, habits etc) Each person then takes turn to read out load what they’ve written. After reading out, set light to the paper in a safe place. This burning of the paper signifies the letting go and the ashes can then be returned to mother earth to complete the circle.
Round 2 – What I’d like to receive
A- Write down what you’d like to give thanks for in the past year and read these out too.
People that have mattered most, achievements, challenges overcome, Lessons learned and maybe new habits formed.
B – Then ask for what you want to bring into your life for the future and coming year. It could be new people or a new relationship, new opportunities or simply help to resolve a ‘situation’ in the best possible way.
At the end of each person’s turn they light a candle to give energy to the aspirations to be materialized.
Round 3 – Wishes for others.
This is really a catch all. Candles can be lit for those who have passed on to spirit, for peace and healing, for mother earth and our community and for whatever else is important for those present. We lit 6 candles with each person making a suggested wish.
Spend time to take in the magical moment and the energy vibrating between those present. In our case that moment lasted quite some time. My wife’s mother and father had many stories to tell, from their simple upbringing on farms to wartime events and on from there. Our two pre teen boys, mellowed out and cuddled up in their blankets, forgot all about blasting fireworks off. I think they felt very proud to be speaking with the adults and sharing their ideas. Even the family dog, whose usually a bundle of energy, sprawled across the floor into a peaceful resting position.
Of course this ritual does not need to be reserved for only new year’s eve. It can be carried out whenever you fancy; at a family meeting, on a camping week end or whenever you feel the need to connect.
With thanks to Annarosa for taking her time to share this ritual.
Our thoughts are with Annarosa, her Mother, Olga and brother Josef and the rest of the family over this first festive season without Zdenek.
Be the change. Be free.
# Zdenek was the father of my best friend at University. He taught me things about life that only a ‘father’ could. (A father I lost, in an accident, when I was barely 18 months old)
Zdenek was my willing mentor during those three great years in London. He also mentored our other friends with grace and ease and a good few ‘pints’.
He is also the young boy Zdenek, the Czech history books refer to, entering Prague in 1945, with the first Russian convoy of tanks and trucks, to liberate Czechoslovakia from Nazi tyranny